Comments on: Negative Self Talk for Writers: Fairesy http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-fairesy/ Solutions for Writers Wed, 18 Nov 2009 15:59:53 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: John Hewitt http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-fairesy/comment-page-1/#comment-208528 John Hewitt Mon, 11 Aug 2008 19:06:37 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4325#comment-208528 @ Jeanne, There are plenty of good reasons to get upset about something, but there are usually just as many good reasons to let it slide. @ Jeanne,

There are plenty of good reasons to get upset about something, but there are usually just as many good reasons to let it slide.

]]> By: Jeanne Dininni http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-fairesy/comment-page-1/#comment-208524 Jeanne Dininni Mon, 11 Aug 2008 18:57:02 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4325#comment-208524 @ Ewan, How true! Negative emotional responses to unpleasant circumstances are normal. But, while it may be OK to "<i>go</i> there," it's definitely <i>not</i> OK to "<i>stay</i> there." To get ahead, we must move beyond that first, turbulent emotional reaction and take positive steps to make the best of the situation -- or create an entirely new and better one. @ John, Great points! There are many reasons why <i>Magazine X</i> might have decided to go with another author for that piece. Perhaps the editor didn't like the initial querier's treatment of the topic or (for whatever reason) simply wasn't convinced that he or she would do it justice. (Producing an effective query letter is an art, in itself.) One never knows exactly what's in the mind of a given editor; and, as angry as it makes us to have our ideas stolen, we all know that ideas can't be copyrighted -- which means that anyone can use them. Love your advice for avoiding fairesy! Jeanne @ Ewan,

How true! Negative emotional responses to unpleasant circumstances are normal. But, while it may be OK to “go there,” it’s definitely not OK to “stay there.” To get ahead, we must move beyond that first, turbulent emotional reaction and take positive steps to make the best of the situation — or create an entirely new and better one.

@ John,

Great points! There are many reasons why Magazine X might have decided to go with another author for that piece. Perhaps the editor didn’t like the initial querier’s treatment of the topic or (for whatever reason) simply wasn’t convinced that he or she would do it justice. (Producing an effective query letter is an art, in itself.) One never knows exactly what’s in the mind of a given editor; and, as angry as it makes us to have our ideas stolen, we all know that ideas can’t be copyrighted — which means that anyone can use them.

Love your advice for avoiding fairesy!
Jeanne

]]> By: online banner advertising http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-fairesy/comment-page-1/#comment-206989 online banner advertising Thu, 07 Aug 2008 07:06:28 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4325#comment-206989 It's true when you don't get proper credit of your efforts then you start think negatively about yourself. This always happen with me. And not only me i hope that in world there are many people who has this character. But quick learner is which, who faces these things with very positive frame of mind........................ It’s true when you don’t get proper credit of your efforts then you start think negatively about yourself. This always happen with me. And not only me i hope that in world there are many people who has this character. But quick learner is which, who faces these things with very positive frame of mind……………………

]]> By: John Hewitt http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-fairesy/comment-page-1/#comment-206220 John Hewitt Tue, 05 Aug 2008 20:27:06 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4325#comment-206220 @ Ewan, It is certainly true that many people talk themselves out of their negative thinging after a little time. The key is to stop the negative thinking as soon as you can. @ Ewan,

It is certainly true that many people talk themselves out of their negative thinging after a little time. The key is to stop the negative thinking as soon as you can.

]]> By: Ewan Kennedy http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-fairesy/comment-page-1/#comment-206188 Ewan Kennedy Tue, 05 Aug 2008 19:12:02 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4325#comment-206188 I see poor self talk and realistic self talk both as natural and reasonable responses but at different stages. It's perfectly fine initially to get angry and feel cheated. That is, after all, the truth so why deny it? What's important is what you do next and how you handle your emotional reaction. That's when it's vital to stay positive so that you come out on top eventually and not to let unfortunate experiences drag you down. It may start off as bad luck but the eventual outcome is in your own hands so take responsibility for it. "People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them." George Bernard Shaw I see poor self talk and realistic self talk both as natural and reasonable responses but at different stages. It’s perfectly fine initially to get angry and feel cheated. That is, after all, the truth so why deny it? What’s important is what you do next and how you handle your emotional reaction. That’s when it’s vital to stay positive so that you come out on top eventually and not to let unfortunate experiences drag you down. It may start off as bad luck but the eventual outcome is in your own hands so take responsibility for it.

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.”

George Bernard Shaw

]]> By: John Hewitt http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-fairesy/comment-page-1/#comment-206172 John Hewitt Tue, 05 Aug 2008 18:20:35 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4325#comment-206172 @ Dave Perspective is a powerful tool. @ Lillie All of these problems can be applied to people in general. Everyone has some form of negative self talk that they have to get past. @ Dave

Perspective is a powerful tool.

@ Lillie

All of these problems can be applied to people in general. Everyone has some form of negative self talk that they have to get past.

]]> By: Lillie Ammann http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-fairesy/comment-page-1/#comment-206160 Lillie Ammann Tue, 05 Aug 2008 17:19:49 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4325#comment-206160 John, This is common throughout our society-not just among writers. Everybody seems to think they're entitled to ... whatever they think is "fair." John,
This is common throughout our society-not just among writers. Everybody seems to think they’re entitled to … whatever they think is “fair.”

]]> By: dave http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-fairesy/comment-page-1/#comment-205999 dave Tue, 05 Aug 2008 06:50:55 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4325#comment-205999 Yeah i find that alot of those work! Yeah i find that alot of those work!

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