Comments on: Negative Self Talk for Writers: Blaming http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-blaming/ Writing Career Center Sun, 14 Mar 2010 19:10:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jeanne Dininni http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-blaming/comment-page-1/#comment-204458 Jeanne Dininni Wed, 30 Jul 2008 16:23:15 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4314#comment-204458 Great advice, John! It's far too easy to blame other people or circumstances for things we ourselves should have handled better in the first place. Jeanne Great advice, John!

It’s far too easy to blame other people or circumstances for things we ourselves should have handled better in the first place.

Jeanne

]]> By: John Hewitt http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-blaming/comment-page-1/#comment-204439 John Hewitt Wed, 30 Jul 2008 14:21:54 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4314#comment-204439 @ James All of these negative self talks can apply to everyone. These are the things that people do to themselves. I have, so far, been guilty of every item on the list. @ WD I do the same things with my nieces and nephews. "Don't be a rat" is my catchphrase with them. @ James

All of these negative self talks can apply to everyone. These are the things that people do to themselves. I have, so far, been guilty of every item on the list.

@ WD

I do the same things with my nieces and nephews. “Don’t be a rat” is my catchphrase with them.

]]> By: Writer Dad http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-blaming/comment-page-1/#comment-204428 Writer Dad Wed, 30 Jul 2008 13:20:38 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4314#comment-204428 My children do this now. I'm trying to iron it out of their character, so they don't do it as adults. Whenever they start, I say, "I'm not interested in playing the blame game, guys. Let's find a solution." It's getting better. Writer Dads last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/WriterDad/~3/349548340/" rel="nofollow">You Can Keep the Thrilling Rides, I’ll Take the Floating Rock</a> My children do this now. I’m trying to iron it out of their character, so they don’t do it as adults. Whenever they start, I say, “I’m not interested in playing the blame game, guys. Let’s find a solution.”

It’s getting better.

Writer Dads last blog post..You Can Keep the Thrilling Rides, I’ll Take the Floating Rock

]]> By: James Garner http://www.poewar.com/negative-self-talk-for-writers-blaming/comment-page-1/#comment-204421 James Garner Wed, 30 Jul 2008 12:46:22 +0000 http://www.poewar.com/?p=4314#comment-204421 This is true for all people, not just writers. Many people, including myself in a former age, indulge in this blame game. It is easier, and far more gratifying to blame others for your troubles than accept the thought that every person is largely responsible for their own troubles. By my estimation, my own weaknesses, shortcomings, foibles and chosen mis-behavior is the cause of more tha 90% of my own troubles, either indirectly or indirectly as people resonsd to my choices. I suspect this is true for all people. I can honestly say that there are a few occurrances in my life, that have caused me great pain, that were beyond my control, and not caused by myself, but these are the slim minority. But even if we accept the premise that all a person's troubles are directly attributable to outside entities or the actions of others, what of it? If you were that person I woudl say, get over it. What good does nursing a grudge do? What good is it to sit around and blame others? Get up and do something about the troubles. Overcome the weakness given to you by your parent. Put a salve on the wound given to you by your friend or lover. Stop moping about, and be what you are capable of being. Do what you are capable of doing. Do it now! This is true for all people, not just writers. Many people, including myself in a former age, indulge in this blame game. It is easier, and far more gratifying to blame others for your troubles than accept the thought that every person is largely responsible for their own troubles. By my estimation, my own weaknesses, shortcomings, foibles and chosen mis-behavior is the cause of more tha 90% of my own troubles, either indirectly or indirectly as people resonsd to my choices. I suspect this is true for all people. I can honestly say that there are a few occurrances in my life, that have caused me great pain, that were beyond my control, and not caused by myself, but these are the slim minority. But even if we accept the premise that all a person’s troubles are directly attributable to outside entities or the actions of others, what of it? If you were that person I woudl say, get over it. What good does nursing a grudge do? What good is it to sit around and blame others? Get up and do something about the troubles. Overcome the weakness given to you by your parent. Put a salve on the wound given to you by your friend or lover. Stop moping about, and be what you are capable of being. Do what you are capable of doing.
Do it now!

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